As Iron Sharpens Iron

As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.

Proverbs 27:17 (NIV)

Friendships shape us more than we often realize. The people we spend time with influence how we think, how we respond to challenges, and how we understand ourselves. Over time, their voices become familiar, sometimes even shaping our inner dialogue.

The verse about iron sharpening iron is not gentle language. Sharpening requires friction. It involves contact that can feel uncomfortable. Growth rarely happens in isolation, and it is seldom effortless.

Healthy friendships challenge us without tearing us down. They speak truth when it would be easier to stay silent. They encourage growth even when it feels inconvenient. These relationships do not exist to affirm everything we do, but to help refine who we are becoming.

At the same time, sharpening requires trust. Iron does not sharpen iron from a distance. It happens through closeness, consistency, and mutual willingness. True friendship allows room for honesty and grace to coexist.

Not every relationship in our lives will sharpen us in healthy ways. Some voices dull our faith rather than strengthen it. Being mindful of which relationships influence us most is an act of wisdom, not judgment.

God often uses friendships to reveal blind spots, affirm gifts, and strengthen character. Through shared conversations, correction, laughter, and even tension, He shapes us in ways we could not accomplish alone.

If you have ever felt stretched by a relationship, it may be part of God’s refining work. And if you have ever been encouraged at just the right moment by a friend, that too is evidence of His care.

Sharpening is rarely comfortable, but it is deeply valuable. God places people in our lives not only to walk beside us, but to help shape us into who He is calling us to be.

Alycia Neighbours